I feel like Rumi was a great thinker, and he went beyond Islam, but was rooted in Islam, so you shouldn't take that away from him. If you love the breaking free of the strictures of Islam to consort in bars and taverns, of making friends with beautiful slave girls even though it was scandalous. What are you doing? they would ask. He says at least she is honest, implying they aren't honest about their urges and desires and ways of being. Sufism rejects the fundamentalism and opens up to the whole being, it seems, but honestly I don't know, I'm just reading a biography of Rumi and that is how it feels. 

What are the structures of Buddhism? Surely the reputation of entertainments of the Theravada are something to break free from. There is plenty of Buddhist music, literature that would be forbidden to the Theravada. And yet it's the strict Theravada sangha that carries forth the pali canon and the tradition. It's almost like you have to go really overboard to preserve something. 

I believe you should be as strict and disciplined with yourself, and let others do what they want. That's the exact opposite of fundamentalist governments, Christian nationalism. Society is secular, spirituality is private. Nobody should tell you how to think, you think for yourself, especially with spirituality. It's a private internal organizing system. You're allowing yourself to be hacked when you follow others. We're afraid to stand alone.